Comments on: What I Learned When I Accidentally Tried To Go To The Hot Flash Dance For Women Only

By: Jared Luke

Jared Luke — Sun, 28 Nov 2010 20:20:08 +0000

@Chance:

Of course, you missed the point entirely. The whole thing went from “bitching” to understanding. But then, why read the whole article when you can jump in with your “bitching” based on only one part?

Also, anyone who claims that a place is allowed to treat people unequally until ALL OTHERS treat people equally has no understanding of how societies change in a positive way. But then again, that sort of lack of understanding is to be expected from someone who cannot even finish an article before writing a flame-inducing response.

Thanks for being the example of what is often wrong with our community (misdirected anger) and allowing me the opportunity to respond.

Here’s to hoping you ponder changing your attitude after the anger dies down.

By: Chance

Chance — Sat, 27 Nov 2010 05:04:29 +0000

Whatever. I’m a lesbian/dyke/queer/boi who has been denied entry to “men’s” bars in Portland, Seattle, and Chicago. When these establishments stop their bias within our community I might empathize with men not being able to go to Hot Flash. Men shouldn’t bitch until their bars, ALL of the traditionally men’s/boy/bear/etc. bars, identify and function in a way that welcomes the entire community.

By: Starra

Starra — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 09:22:25 +0000

I’ll come and I’ll help put something together

By: Sunny

Sunny — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 05:22:06 +0000

Long time coming… and kudos to your personal evolutions… be there with old skool bells on

By: Luna

Luna — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 06:15:45 +0000

This little bee is wondering when someone will do a 20+ party for those of us LGBTQ people who aren’t teens but aren’t 21 either. Damn. Summer is getting way too boring…

By: Fabulous Rob

Fabulous Rob — Sat, 22 May 2010 20:26:41 +0000

Hi! Thanks for responding. Unfortunately, busy lives have kept us from putting this party together, but I think we all have high hopes to put something together. We may need a little help!

Thanks!

By: nelleellen

nelleellen — Fri, 21 May 2010 06:14:22 +0000

So, what happened to this idea? I’m late to this website, but inquiring minds want to know…is the dance party happening occasionally? When and where??

By: farah

farah — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 06:41:56 +0000

Here’s my question.

Why isn’t there a place for those of us caught in limbo? Not 18 but not 21? Where in the hell do we go? Can we go?

I’m thinking about opening MY own 19+ club, so that LGBTQ people who are young but aren’t quite babies can have someone where to party too. We’re ALWAYS overlooked except for stupid game nights and other not-so-exciting outings.

By: gabriela kandziora

gabriela kandziora — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 23:38:56 +0000

uh…I am for ANY party that is fun, plays great music, has Fabulous Portland Men and Women attending, and has alcohol!!

By: Michelle Lagos

Michelle Lagos — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 23:28:34 +0000

I have to say that I really will probably avoid a Hot Flash dancing scenario, even though i understand the specific service thats trying to be provided, as I beleive that we are at a time in history that one cannot tell, based on genitals alone, if someone if lesbian, intersexed, trans, etc. for this reason I won’t ever be attending these dance evening unless they become all inclusive.
Would love to be a part and only a part of all inclusive events – So, YES please let me know how thats forming.

By: Zora Phoenix

Zora Phoenix — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 23:00:03 +0000

It still begs the question, why there is the division in our “community” that makes lesbians want their own event. While women aren’t excluded from bear events, for example, they may choose not to attend (to avoid be outnumbered)… but they certainly aren’t barred from entry. If a group were to have a minority only, race-based entry system, there’d be no way it wouldn’t receive major media attention. I’ll give it to the owners of Hot Flash, they succeeded in both continuing a discriminatory event and in distracting you from doing so by agreeing to help with a joint venture.

By: Maureen

Maureen — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:25:42 +0000

What a beautiful outcome … such power in sharing information and seeking understanding … wonderful!

By: Fabulous Rob

Fabulous Rob — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:39:04 +0000

Timothy – Yes, in fact, a person with NO discernible neck is even allowed to attend (I had to be sure to include myself!)

Ryan – We are still in the planning stages, including the naming, but my vote is for an early party that is targeted but not exclusive. Thanks! I really appreciate your support.

By: Ryan Ruelos

Ryan Ruelos — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:20:31 +0000

Well this was a delicious read. I would come to the party. The name “hot mess” is used for a pretty big party in seattle, fyi. A couple questions and comments…There are a few things in my opinion that contribute to the success of hot flash: 1. The exclusivity 2. The time of the party for its audience 3. Reputation (Pauline & Joyce). So exclusivity is out on this round, but what about the time of day? Would it be an early evening party like hot flash? Cuz that’s kinda cool. Either way, I will support it. =)

By: Timothy Shea

Timothy Shea — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:15:47 +0000

can rednecks come? (to the party)