R. Marc Andrews is a Portland Oregon therapist focused on gay men’s mental health and happiness. In this interview, he talks about how he chose his career and how he helps men create the lives they want for themselves.

Dear Fabulous Marc

We are both in our 50′s. About five years or so back I was told that as far as he was concerned we were going to be best friends and that was it.  He said he’d let me know when that changed.  I miss the sex, but more so I miss the intimacy. [...]

i’m just getting into a new relationship and I’m stumbling a bit.  I’m 23, my boyfriend is 30.  Although it hasn’t been very long (about 2 months) it already feels like we’ve been together forever, that part of it feels great!

The problem I’m having is that knowing a little about his sexual past is making [...]

Finding a therapist that you can work with is a very important step, regardless of the recommendation letters. This person will be helping you make the social and emotional transition from being one sex in society to another.

So “20 Years Old and Depressed”, you started by coming to the right place. Fabulous PDX is the place to find anything queer to do in Portland area. I also would suggest the “Outreach” section in Just Out, under the section “Social”.

The fact of the matter is there are as many varieties of types of relationships as there are relationships out there. All have their pros and cons. We have seen that marriage does not work for all heterosexuals with divorce reaching close to 50%. Homosexuals have been in the forefront of exploring different types of relationships as a result of not being bound by the myopic view that all relationships must lead to marriage.